#362 Life after hate is possible

CBC broadcast the story of a former neo-Nazi skinhead whose past is so ugly and violent it is hard to imagine his metamorphosis is real. Some question whether the transformation he claims to have made is possible. Others say until he faces his victims and makes restitution, or until he does time in prison for his crimes, he cannot be forgiven.

I cannot crawl inside his mind, but I listened to the program, checked out his work and am prepared to hope.

Arno Michaels was a violent, hate-filled racist and a virulent homophobe. He tells his story on the Forgiveness Project Web site. The whole story is worth reading. This is an excerpt:

I wallowed in violence as a means of self-destruction and stimulation. Using white power ideology as justification and profuse alcohol abuse as a spiritual anaesthetic, I practiced violence until it seemed natural, becoming very proficient in aggression. With my bare hands, I beat other human beings to the point of hospitalization over the color of their skin, their sexuality, or simply just for the adrenaline rush. Kids trying to emulate me did much worse.

Becoming a father changed his reality. He could see the danger of losing his daughter if he didn’t change. He might end up in prison or dead.

He had been a white power punk rocker. When he got into the rave scene, he found a new path. He writes:

While there was still a lot of drug use and irresponsible behaviour, there was also a lot of forgiveness. I was embraced and accepted by people who formerly I would have attacked on sight, and that was a very powerful thing for me. But it took me a long time to work through my feelings of guilt and remorse for the harm I’d caused.

He did work through them. He stopped drinking. He became a spokesman against racism and hatred. He wrote a memoir, My Life After Hate and co-founded an online magazine, Life After Hate and a character education movement, Kindness Not Weakness.

In the video below, from July 2010, Michaels answers a black student’s question, “Do you miss being a skinhead?” He says what he enjoyed as a skinhead was the cameraderie and the sense of being part of a group with common beliefs. What he enjoys now is the greater diversity of his circle of his friends.

There are a lot of videos on the Life After Hate YouTube channel. I chose this one because Michaels didn’t lie to the students about the pleasures of his skinhead life, the sense of purpose he felt, the highs he and his white supremacist pals shared. A shift from casual violence to warrior for peace is major, but it does not erase the past. Honesty strengthens his new message.

Michaels has committed himself to peace as passionately as he once committed himself to hate. I wish him well with his work. It gives me hope.

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4 comments for “#362 Life after hate is possible

  1. July 14, 2012 at 8:11 pm

    Hi Cathryn,

    I truly appreciate the time and energy you spent to put this together, and your support and kindness! Life After Hate is a machine that runs on interdependence, and the more of us who wish to be a part of it, the farther and wider the truth of basic human goodness can be broadcast. Thank you so much for Reason To Be Optimistic #362 and for inspiring the world around you.

    with love and gratitude,
    -arno

    • July 14, 2012 at 8:16 pm

      Wow, Arno, I’m honoured that you took the time to comment. When I listened to you on Metamorphosis, I had such a strong sense that you were changing lives with your honesty and clarity. I was moved that becoming a father shifted your perspective and touched by what you said of the rave scene and the openness and acceptance you found there. You’ve inspired me, and I’m delighted to connect via social media and to know of the critical, compassionate work you are doing.

      Cathryn

  2. Dale Pollard
    July 18, 2012 at 2:14 pm

    What a beautiful story. As I read the intro, I too bristled with indignation that he had not gone to jail. Then I read, and saw. This man gives me hope – so much more than any message I’ve ever heard. He is too valuable a resource to waste in jail, where the skinheads would kill him as a traitor. Bravo, young man. What true strength!

    • July 18, 2012 at 2:44 pm

      I had a similar reaction, Dale. His crimes were horrendous. Then I listened more deeply, watched some of his videos, wandered around on his site, and realized how lucky the world is that he is free to share his story. He is a reminder that transformation is possible.

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